UNDERSTANDING TODAY'S REALITIES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE..
UNDERSTANDING TODAY'S REALITIES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE...
For the single ladies:
Honestly, this is not the kind of post I am really passionate to write about. I have been very reluctant to come up with it because it's not conventional thinking. However, I feel compelled to share with you all the secrets of relationship and marriage that I know because i it's my greatest desire to see more and more happy homes. It takes wisdom to build a happy a home and successful marriage, sometimes an unconventional wisdom.
I must state here that I am not here to discourage or deflate anyone's faith in God. Never! As a child of God, while walking in faith, I also walk in wisdom because wisdom is the principal thing and it's profitable to direct. Sometimes what some of us call faith is sheer foolishness. But may we not be foolish in Jesus name!
Now let me go straight to the point. I believe by now I will have a soft landing by the time I am done with this post. Lol.
Dear single ladies, have you noticed that the tide is changing with regards to the way marriage is happening in many homes? Have you noticed that things are no longer the way they used to be? Have you noticed that the economic realities of our days are no longer what they used to be like it was some 20, 15, 10 or even 5 years ago?
Have you noticed that more and more young guys of the age bracket 27-35 who desire to marry are earning less than N100,000? Have you noticed that guys are finding it more and more difficult to marry these days because of lack of money? Have you noticed that despite working for 3-5 years and saving hard, many guys can't boast of N500,000 in their bank account that is their own?
Now what's my point?
These days are the days that ladies are to support their fiancés to wed. It's also the times where wives support their husbands at home financially. Support who? What? Yeah, you heard me right! But AYNAIJANG CEO, is he not the man again, the head of the family? Is it not his responsibility to cater for me and his children all alone?
The idea that a husband alone should provide for his family doesn't apply in most homes these days. In fact, in some marriages many wives are earning more than their husbands. In some marriages, the husbands are out of their jobs and it's their able wives that have been manning and supporting the family till he gets another job.
Frankly speaking, its highly unadvisable these days for a single lady to marry without a job, handiwork, business or any source of income. Marry with the mindset that you are coming to support your husband, especially if your man is still coming up financially.
Dear ladies, these days you must work, have a business or have a handiwork. Coming into marriage with the mindset that your man will do everything in marriage while you contribute little or nothing is no longer the order of the day because such men are very scarce. These days, smart ladies understand the times they live in and find a way around it, whereas unwise ladies refuse to understand the times they live in and are stranded in their marriage.
In conclusion, I am this type of husband who believes in catering and providing for his family all alone without the financial input of his wife. I know that is an ideology shared by many other husbands out there. Many are doing so in their marriages. But what about the future husbands and husbands who can't do such or same? Is it not wise that their future wives or wives support them?
A truth not often mentioned to our ladies is that THE VIRTUOUS WIFE IS INDUSTRIOUS, ENTERPRISING, HARDWORKING AND A PARTNER IN PROGRESS IN HER MARRIAGE. SHE SUPPORTS HER HUSBAND TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN HER FAMILY.
Ladies, please stop quoting 1 Timothy 5:8 alone; quote also Proverbs 31. Once again, I say truthfully here: NO MAN OR HUSBAND SENT ME TO PLEAD ON THEIR BEHALF. THIS IS JUST THE WISDOM OF THE HOUR.